People Want To Be Around Us

My friends and I decided to meet our colleagues in another city. After a few hours of driving, we arrived at our destination in an office complex. We were delighted to see that our friends have prepared the space to welcome us. After initial greetings and meetings, we started having one to one conversations.

Amongst many of the new members that I met, one person caught my attention. He was very nice, polite and appropriate. He came across very approachable. We had a brief interaction and a very short conversation. In the first instance, he made me feel comfortable having conversation with him even though we just met.

Many moons later, he moved to our city and we started seeing each other more often. One thing led to another and our relationship evolved to much deeper levels. Today, he is one of my most important Co-Contributors. I can say that he has contributed in most, if not all, my business ventures. His contributions are invaluable.

If it was not for that initial conversation, we might have not been where we are today. It was his approach to have a calm, collected, and relax conversation that made me feel comfortable around him. As a result, I looked forward to seeing him more often. So, when he moved to our city our relationship got deeper and more meaningful as time went by.

Of course, our relationship have gone through ups and downs but we have stayed together through thick and thin. We have worked on ourselves to sustain this priceless relationship. We have mutually put our efforts to make our contributions valuable to each other. We could claim that the course of our businesses changed because of our productive relationship.

It is quite crucial to be approachable. If people are not comfortable around us, they will abandon us. If we intimidate people at our initial meetings, they will try to avoid us. We might have the best of intentions but that doesn't count. What counts is if people are feeling safe, secure and serene around us.

When people start feeling comfortable around us they start opening up. They will try to come closer to us. They look forward meeting us more often. As a result, there is potential that we build a consistent connection with them. Even better, we might be able to take our relationship to much deeper levels.

In today's age and time, deeper connections are the real currency. We have shallow relationships all over social media and even in our circle of influence. What gives value to our relationships are the ones that are deeper and more meaningful. If we are good at building deeper connections, our future is secured. The doors of opportunities open with deeper connections because deeper connections are based on mutual trust.

It takes time to have deeper and more meaningful connections but the initial impression makes it possible. It is that first impression that helps to evolve the relationship to deeper levels. If we come across as intimidating in our initial meetups, it will close the door for future potential. So, we have to find ways to make people comfortable talking to us and approaching us.

Making people comfortable around us is an art. It takes time to learn the traits of this art. There is no limit to learning the skills required to make people at ease around us. So, we are required to keep on practicing in the process while learning these skills. Different people feel at ease with us for different reasons and that is why it is an art not science. We have to learn as we go and the learning process is forever which makes it more enticing to be on this endless journey.

Bottom line is that the more people are comfortable around us, the more people approach us. The more people approach us, the more potential Co-Contributors we will connect with. And the more Co-Contributors we have, the higher the chances of our success in every endeavor of our life. So, lets start making people feel comfortable around us and lets start this lifelong journey.